Dealing With Rejection

Dealing With Rejection

In life, there are a lot more NO’s than YES’s. If rejection is part of life, we need to prepared for it.

2 Timothy 4:9-10
9 Make every effort to come to me soon, 10 for Demas has deserted me, because he loved this present world, and has gone to Thessalonica.

  • Rejection Is Tough
    • There is no level spirituality that does not feel the pain of rejection
      • Paul was an apostle
      • Paul loved the Lord more than most that have ever believed
      • Paul had sacrificed more than most ever would
      • Yet, we feel the emotion in Paul’s language
        • “Demas has deserted me”
        • It’s painful
        • It’s personal
    • Pain is always the consequence of broken love levels
      • We love
        • God; our spouse; our children; our jobs; food; exercise; hobbies; football
      • They are not meant to be loved equally or the same
      • When our alignment is off, we will miss our aim, and result is pain
      • When elevate the wrong things, people always get hurt
      • We have all felt the sting of believing we would be chosen only to be cast aside
    • A stumble can lead to a tumble when we internalize the sin of others
      • We go places in our mind God never intended us to go
      • We assign blame to God for the actions of sinners
      • This thinking always hurts and never helps our future
      • The fruit of this fallacy is a mindset that moves farther away from God
        • We move farther away from help
        • We move farther away from health
        • We move farther away from hope
        • We move farther away from truth
        • We move farther away from growth/transformation of sinful habits

Luke 5:4-6,10b-11
4 When he had finished speaking, he said to Simon, “Put out into deep water, and let down the nets for a catch.” 5 Simon answered, “Master, we’ve worked hard all night and haven’t caught anything. But because you say so, I will let down the nets.” 6 When they had done so, they caught such a large number of fish that their nets began to break.
10b Then Jesus said to Simon, “Don’t be afraid; from now on you will fish for people.” 11 So they pulled their boats up on shore, left everything and followed him.

  • How Do We Deal With Rejection?
    • We Must Choose Community Over Isolation
      • Paul’s answer was not to retreat into isolation
      • He appealed for others to assist
        • For some, asking for help is very difficult due to pride or trust issues
        • “Come To Me Soon” – Sooner Is Better
        • We need encouragement from a Christian community i.e. church, lifegroup, ministry team
    • We Must Remember God’s Love Is Our Foundation
      • We can’t allow hate to fill our hearts
      • If we accept God’s love for us as broken sinners, we can find a way to forgive others. There is great freedom in forgiving those that have rejected us.
    • We Must Be Able To Discern The Difference Between Rejection And Redirection
      • If our focus is the product without an understanding of the process, then we will feel rejection when redirection is intended
      • Our skill can produce so long as God allows it to produce
      • But if God closes the door, no man can open it
      • If God opens the door, no man can close it
      • Their lack of production was not rejection of their effort but redirection of their purpose
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